ELust 100

I was delighted to find that I was fortunate enough to be selected as Readers Choice! Thank you to whoever is responsible for this! Made my day.


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Welcome to Elust 100

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #101 Start with the rules, come back December 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!


~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

He’s Out of My League

Pink Hair, Don’t Care!

I’m a feminist but…

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Pain Sluts and Brain Squirrels

His Car Keys

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~


*You really should consider adding your popular posts here too*
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Writing About Writing

Why Financial Disclosures Matter on Your Blog

Erotic Fiction

An American Werewolf in London
The Spider and the Fly

Body Talk and Sexual Health

Over exposed?

Erotic Non-Fiction

Mirror Image
Return to Position, Part 1
One Present Moment
Edgy Morning
The Date-Aversary Continues
The Smell, Taste and Love of Chocolate.



Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Asking can be sexy too!
Soaring in Space
Age Play
Stroke of luck

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Adult Content on Patreon
Censorship on Share our Shit Saturday
#SSoS Sharing for the Win

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

#iTalkSex Why I Talk Sex
Radical Acceptance In Relationships
So… ghosting is an acceptable thing now
What giving a collar means to me


Reflections on us and the blog



Elust 88


A Sincere Thank You

I am so honoured and flattered to be included in Marie Rebelle’s top blog list this year. She has selected some truly fantastic bloggers for her list and I am blown away to be in such company, especially as I have not blogged much this year.

I want to thank her for this gesture as well as for being such a positive, wonderful voice in the sex blogging community.

Rebel you are an inspiration!

Check out who else made her list here.

I also want to say a big thank you to everyone who read and supported my scribblings this year. It means so very much to me that you take time out to read and comment on my ramblings. I love you guys so much!

I wish you all a happy and healthy 2017… let’s face it, it can only get better, right?


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An Interview With The Writer #2 Wank Of The Day

FullSizeRenderI was so happy when the gorgeous Chloe from Wank Of The Day sent me a DM on twitter asking if I would be interested in interviewing her. I have enjoyed her blog for a long time and have always found her very easy to chat with – she’s a funny chick is our Clo! If I recall correctly, she introduced me to my good buddy and my co-founder of F4TF, and my first IWTW victim, Wookie, (or maybe he introduced me to her?).

Please do visit her blog if you haven’t already done so… It is a filthy and fabulous place and you will not be disappointed.

Delighted to chat with you Chloe, let’s get started – can you tell us how Wank of the Day came to be?

I can’t actually answer that one. I know that the couple who started it, Jess and Luke, intended it to be a collective, a place where bloggers and people who didn’t have blogs of their own could share their smut. A certain hirsute friend of ours asked me if I’d like to get involved doing the tumblr blog, (since I had a few of my own). A couple of years ago, Jess stepped down for personal reasons and asked me if I might keep it ticking over. I agreed and, at first, it was mainly down to submissions from people like yourself and Rebecca Black. I started writing a few opinion pieces and the blog, as we know it today, pretty much grew from there.

Ah yes! Our mutual hairy friend, haha!

We know you write from your, (very adventurous and exciting), personal experiences but do you write any of your stories based solely on fantasy?

No, not really; although, I guess yes too. Partially because my fantasies tend to revolve around particular things that I’ve done or that I enjoy doing. In my head, I may change the location, the circumstances, or possibly even the person I did them with, but they are all kind of reflective, pleasant memories. The blog posts I write also tend to be about those experiences, so in a way, I guess, they are quite close to the things I fantasize about. Only, when I blog, I keep the actual people and places in them.

WOTD features a wonderful mix of your true-life stories, fiction, poetry and discussion pieces, which form of writing do you prefer?

I think I’m much better at writing about sex than actually writing sex. I’ve written a few pieces of fiction, but most of the stories on the blog come from guest posters like yourself. Discussion/opinion pieces are much easier because it’s just me spouting off whatever is in my head. Sometimes I can be quite lucid, at other times I can be a bit vague. Sometimes I kinda forget what point I’m trying to make half way through because I’ve gone off on a tangent and can’t get back to point. It’s a bit free rolling at times, but that’s just how my mind works.

I can relate to that! I often start off a piece thinking it will end totally differently to how it actually does!

Do you have a post of your own that you are particularly proud of? A favourite?

I tend to forget what I’ve written sometimes almost as soon as I’ve written it; “Baby Brain” is particularly good for that. One post, however, that was particularly well received was my somewhat tongue-in-cheek: An “A-Z” of Wanks that I wrote last May for “National Masturbation Month” (do you think that’s actually a real thing?). It is still by far and away the most popular post I have written in terms of views and reblogs.

Oh! I loved that post! It was so funny! So good I am gonna link to it here!

You very generously regularly post pieces by other bloggers, why do you like to offer this service?

As I said at the start, WOTD was intended to be a collective. When I took over, people like you helped considerably by actually giving material to post. It also introduced me to some fabulous writers like KC Cave and Oleander Plume. At first it was a great way to help keep the blog ticking over as I was finding my feet, and I suspect, now that I can no longer see my feet, it might become more important again. It’s a great way of spreading the love though.

I am a firm believer in bloggers and writers supporting and promoting each other’s work, so good for you Chloe! Great job!

What, if any, aspects of blogging or writing challenge you?

Coming up with new ideas. Not repeating myself, (see earlier comment about my memory). Actually sticking to/remembering the point I’m trying to make. And then, of course, there’s the inevitable pitfall about writing about sex, which is not allowing yourself to get too distracted by what you are writing.

Oh, I frequently have to take a mid-writing break to, um… take care of business before I can complete a sexy story. And I relate very much to the pressure to come up with fresh content and not get repetitive.

What are the best things about blogging?

I do enjoy my “research”; I’m definitely very “hands-on” in that respect.

You are a minx! For me, it has to be the connections I have made via my blogs. I have made good friends.

WOTD participates in lots of blogging memes, but which are your favourites?

#SinfulSunday is a particular favourite of mine because it’s so positive and so supportive. It celebrates the wide variety of shapes and sizes and the beauty of all of them. #MasturbationMonday and #WickedWednesday are great for giving me ideas to write about, and the pics that Kayla posts as prompts are yummy. I have a particular soft-spot for #SexySearching, if only because it was originally my baby, even if the lovely Rebel has now taken it on as I just don’t have the time to devote to it. I also enjoy the posers that you and the Wookie set on #FoodForThoughtFriday.

Thanks! We love reading your replies. I am a fan of Sinful and Wicked too.

We know of your love of sex and all things cock related Chloe, but have you any specific kinks or fetishes? How do they feature in your writing?

The two biggest ones, which will probably be no surprise to anyone who reads the blog are pain and cum. I love Mike’s belt and I am always looking for new ways to “earn” its attention. I am also a self-confessed “Cum Slut”. I definitely have a fixation for the substance. I love its feel, its texture, its taste, the warm sensation of it in me and on my skin. I love the delicious feeling of degradation when Mike, or another guy cums over my face or my boobs. Basically, I can’t get enough of the stuff. Am I weird?

I can think of worse things to be addicted to!

Do you think erotica and pornography are different? How so?

Yes and no. They are both different strands of the same thing, namely the fascination that we humans have with sex and the fact that we find sex, in itself, sexy. Porn is obviously a lot more visual, it’s pretty much in your face, whereas erotica plays much more in your mind. I can get turned on viewing pornographic images, and I share ones that I particularly like via my tumblr blogs; but words… Well, words move me at a much deeper level. When I’m reading, I can immerse myself in it so much more. Porn is voyeuristic; erotica can feel so much more personal; it’s a facking great shag for the brain.

I agree. Do you read erotica? Any authors you would recommend?

I read quite a lot, but mainly in blogs. As well as yourself and the other bloggers I have already mentioned, Tabitha Rayne and F dot Leonora are definitely well worth reading.

Do you watch porn? Alone? With Mike? What categories do you click on most often?

It may be a surprise, but I don’t actually watch that much. When I do, I tend to prefer amateur/homemade because it’s more “real”. I like looking at pornographic images, and Mike and I will often scroll through tumblr together, selecting the photos to reblog.

The couple that pervs together stays together!

You share so much of yourself on WOTD, so I’d love to know if any people, (friends or family), from your ‘real life’ read the blog? Are you comfortable with them knowing so much personal information about you?

As a blogger, I am sort of “out” but still very much “in”. Yes, I make reference to the fact that I have red hair and that I am originally from Shetland, but, that said, I never post photos of my face, (even if my boobs have made the occasional cameo on the blog) and, apart from the sex, I don’t really give away too many details about my “real” life. I guess, if people really wanted to put two and two together, they could work out who I am, but on the whole, I’m comfortable with it. A couple of my close friends know, and although they were initially a bit shocked, they are cool with it. As I’ve mentioned before, if my mother were ever to read it, it probably wouldn’t be my sex life that shocked her, but finding out that I used to smoke.

Congratulations are due as we know that you and Mike are soon to become parents for the first time! Has pregnancy had any effect on your sex life? How do you think becoming a Mother will impact on your sex life?

Becoming pregnant had a huge impact on it. For the first few months when I couldn’t keep anything I ate down and wasn’t sleeping. Sex was just not even on the cards. Once things settled down, my appetites returned with a vengeance. I suspect motherhood will have quite a big effect. I can’t imagine I’ll be picking up random guys in pubs for a while and as for swinging, well I suspect that may well be on hold until the sleepless nights pass. Honestly though, I’ve no idea how it’ll affect me. Given that I never expected to be able to get pregnant, this is all a leap into the unknown for me. Who knows, Odin forbid, it might even make an “honest” woman out of me.

Haha! Never!

Do you have a sex ‘bucket list’? What is on it that you have yet to do?

No, not really. If there’s something I really want to try, I generally try it. I’ve no desire to fuck Mike on top of Mount Everest, although I have given him a blowjob at the summit of Ben Nevis, and I’ve no desire to have sex going over Niagara Falls in a barrel. But I’ve done threesomes, I’ve tried, (and got amazingly turned-on), by double-penetration, I’ve had sex with other women, so really, I’ve had a pretty full range of sexual experiences.

Good for you!

We know that you and Mike are not monogamous. Do you ever feel jealous of another woman being with him? Does he feel jealous when you are with someone else?

That’s an interesting question. I must confess, I felt a slight pang the first time I actually saw him fuck someone else. Having said that however, prior to that, watching the same woman suck his cock was a huge turn-on and didn’t arouse any jealousy at all. The thing is, as I explained on the blog, we met as a holiday fling. When we first started seeing each other, he was still living and working down in Bristol. Although we liked each other a lot, and the sex was amazing, being exclusive just didn’t figure into it. As we became more serious, we just agreed that we should be honest about it given that we lived the best part of 500 miles apart and saw each other at most, every other weekend, if we were lucky. When he moved back up here and when we started living together it just kind of carried on and, as we started exploring the D/s side of our relationship, we agreed boundaries and consequences. If Mike has ever had any jealousy with me being with another guy, he has never said, and I suspect, if he does, the thrashings I receive for my indiscretions possibly help him work it out of his system. Apart from that initial experience when we started swinging though, no I don’t feel jealous at all, other than maybe the fact that she is enjoying his cock/tongue instead of me. But then, I’m generally also equally occupied; and, if I’m being honest, I actually find watching him in action pretty fucking hot.

Now for a challenge! Tell us something new and surprising about yourself… something we do not already know!

Shit! I’ll have to think about something other than sex then. Is that even allowed? Well, before I discovered booze, fags and sex, and before my boobs made running extremely uncomfortable, I was the Under 13s girls Inter-Island sprint champion at both 100m and 200m and, in my late 20’s, (so after those discoveries and the encumbrance), I completed both the Edinburgh and London Marathons raising money for MS research. My aunt (mum’s younger sister) suffers from the disease, so it is a cause very close to my heart.

That’s great Chloe, what an achievement!

I really enjoyed chatting with you today, thanks for being so open and generous. I wish you and Mike all the best as your embark on the new adventure of parenthood. And of course, I will continue to be a fan of your blog!


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Ms. Modesty!

I announced my new feature, An Interview With The Writer on Tuesday and have been amazed at the response it has received. It seems people really like the idea and I have had several fellow bloggers express interest in being featured, which has delighted me!

One blogger, the pretty awesome Modesty Ablaze, asked if I would consider her as a subject. I follow her blog already, but in the interests of being a good little interviewer, I popped over and gave it a very thorough inspection. I found that Modesty has a great page on her blog called “Questions You’ve Asked Me“, where she is incredibly open and provides honest and generous responses to all manner of questions people have asked her about her life and blog. I felt that there was really nothing new I could ask her that hadn’t already been addressed.

I hate to say no to people, (I am cursed with the terrible disease; ‘the need to please’), but I told the delightful Modesty how I felt and she was very gracious and lovely in her reply.

However, as I do like to spread the love, I am going to take the opportunity to direct you to her blog, where she posts wickedly sinful photos and shares details of her very exciting and adventurous sex life.

Check out her Q&A pages and see if you can come up with a new question for her!


note: if I do ever say no to an interview request, I hope you understand it was not an easy thing for me to do and that I would have given it careful consideration and would have a genuine reason for saying no. It would certainly not be a reflection on your blog! 

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An Interview With The Writer #1 Kilted Wookie

FullSizeRenderToday I launch my new project called ‘An Interview With The Writer’! (AIWTW)

My good pal Kilted Wookie very generously offered to be my first subject. If you haven’t already discovered his blogs, (he has provided links in his responses), I can wholeheartedly recommend you pop over and peruse them for quality erotica, opinion pieces, haiku and some really cool photography.

If you are a writer and would like to be featured here you can DM me on twitter or just leave a comment on the AIWTW page.


The Kilted Wookie speaks…

So, let’s start at the beginning – which came first, writing or blogging? Can you tell us a bit about how it all began for you?

The writing came first. I wrote my first story way back in 2001. I’d been reading some stories at literotica.com. Some of it was excellent, some of it was dire. Sadly much of what was written by the male writers fell into the latter category. I decided that I could probably do better than that, so I decided to give it a try. The rest, as they say, is history.

The blogging came much later. I wrote a guest piece for Horny Geek Girl back towards the end of 2014. Around about the same time, she and Charlie Powell (of sexblog of sorts fame) were discussing the need for “more cock on #SinfulSunday”. Eventually, they persuaded me to take the plunge, and I posted my first submission to Molly’s meme in January 2015. The blog just grew from there.

What made you decide to focus on erotica?

No real reason. The stories I wrote seemed to be generally well received, so I kind of took that as a motivation to continue.

Do you see erotica as different to pornography? How so?

Very much so. With pornography you have the images; very little is left to the imagination. With the written word, you have the outline of the story as told by the writer, but you can use your imagination to supply your own imagery. You can put yourself in the story if you want, making yourself an “active” participant, or you can treat it as a voyeuristic experience.

Do you write from personal experiences or are your stories fantasy based?

A bit of both. There is generally a factual element to most of my stories. The degree of fact to fiction depends on what I’m writing. Obviously, I know what it feels like and tastes like to go down on a woman, I know how it feels when a woman sucks my cock, I know what it feels like to be have my cock inside her cunt, so I can draw on those feelings and sensations to flesh out my writing. Some of the scenarios my characters find themselves in also come from actual experiences. A lot though, is imagination.

Can you tell us about your writing process? What inspires you? Where do your ideas come from?

Generally, an idea forms, I toy with it in my mind for a period of minutes/hours/days until I have a good idea as to how I want it to work, then I just sit down and splurge. Most of what I write is done in one sitting.

The ideas come from different places; chats I’ve had with people online and in real life, posts that other bloggers have written, articles that I have read elsewhere, and the sex I have actually had.

Your blog is a great mix of fiction, opinion pieces and poetry. Which form of writing do you find most enjoyable? Why?

I enjoy it all. Each has its own challenges, and each has its own rewards. When I started out, my stories tended to be more, full-length, essay type. I would spend almost as much time developing the characters and the scenarios as I did describing the sex. More recently I’ve been working on flash fiction. This has its own challenges; trying to fit all the components of a longer story into around 500 words.

In a way, my haiku are quite similar. It is a very rigid and restrictive form. Trying to condense an idea into exactly seventeen syllables, that conveys the intended meaning and yet still, hopefully, arouses is challenging.

My thoughts and opinions are exactly that. They give the reader an insight into me and the way my mind works. I never claim to be representative of anyone other than myself. That’s the beauty of this community; there are so many views and opinions drawn from so many different viewpoints and experiences. We may not always agree with each other, we may not all like the same things as each other, but we can share our thoughts on matters to an audience that is generally receptive and respectful towards them

What, if any, aspects of blogging or writing challenge you?

I think, like everyone, coming up with new ideas. There are only so many words you can use to describe sex, so you need to set the context. It’s the setting and the characters that make the story. The “hard” bit is getting the scene set. Once you have that in place, the sex itself is fairly easy.

Yes, I agree, coming up with new ideas and new ways of describing sex can be very difficult. On a more personal note, have you found that your dyslexia has presented any specific challenges for you as a blogger?

Not really, no. Probably the most obvious manifestation is the high contrast theme I use on my blog. I appreciate that some people may find it a bit of a strain, but it makes my life a lot easier.

We both have talked openly about our mental health issues; do you find your creativity can be affected by your mood?

It seems to be something that is very prevalent within our particular community. I think my mood is very central to who I am and, yes, it does affect me. When I’m particularly low, the ideas don’t come and, even when they do, the motivation to translate them on to screen in written form just sometimes isn’t there.

On the other hand, because it is so prevalent in our community, my fellow bloggers and Twitter pervs are all wonderfully supportive. I suspect, because we are so used to taking and being open about something as “taboo” as mental health, it perhaps makes us more able to speak openly about subjects like sex, sexuality, kink, etc. There again, I could just be talking bollocks.

Yes! You make an excellent point there, we are a very open and honest bunch in the kink community. I think ever so slightly differently; that perhaps it is because we are so open discussing sex that, in comparison, mental health might seem not as taboo to us as to the more vanilla community. But yes I agree that the support offered is incredible.

Given that you enjoy kink and aspects of D/s, have you any specific kinks or fetishes? Do they feature in your writing? (And before you say it… we know about your love of all things boobtastic!)

I do find it easier to write about the types of sexual activities that I enjoy, be it D/s or “vanilla”. In a way, when I’m writing about these things, I am mentally doing/reliving them, so it’s much easier to write about things that I enjoy and am comfortable with. Given that, as I said before, there are elements of fact in pretty much all of my stories, I guess it’s probably fair to say, if my characters don’t do it, it’s probably something I don’t do, or don’t particularly enjoy doing either.

As for fetishes, I do have bit of thing for glasses.

*Pushes her specs up and wiggles her eyebrows…  👓

You are a keen amateur photographer; tell us how you got into this hobby. Do you think you have a distinctive style?

I’ve been taking photos for as long as I can remember; it’s a bit of an addiction. The advent of the phone camera has only fuelled it. There is probably hardly a day that goes by where I don’t see something that has me reaching for my phone to capture it.

I think digital photography has maybe made us a bit sloppy. We can just point, shoot, and if it doesn’t work, delete and try again. There’s no limitations of only having 12/24/36 exposures on a film to play with. On the other hand, such freedoms allows us to be more experimental; it doesn’t matter if we take 20 crap photos to find that one that we like. And, of course, we can now see our results instantly; no more waiting several days to get them back from the chemist. So, yeah, I doubt I’d have taken the sort of photos I post on #SinfulSunday or my Tumblr Blog if I were still relying on the local chemist to develop my snaps.

As for style, the one thing that I do is to work almost exclusively with available light. I try to avoid using the flash wherever possible. I’m trying, as much as I can, to capture the image as I see it in its “natural” conditions.

Haha! Yeah I remember the thrill of picking up newly developed photos too and hoping they all came out well. And yep, thank fuck for instant and private processing… I cannot imagine my Sinful Sunday contributions would be very sinful if I had to send them away!

I know, like myself, you participate in several blogging memes, but do you have any that are particularly close to your heart? Why so?

I am really enjoying the Click Click 365 project that I am participating in with my fellow photographers, F dot Leonora, Exposing 40 and The Other Livvy. I am, of course a huge fan of #SinfulSunday because of the way it promotes body positivity and for the sheer quality of the images that the participants post each week. Then of course, there is our very own Food For Thought Friday, which is a lot of fun trying to think up questions and I really enjoy reading the responses of the bloggers that take part.

Ah yes, our wee baby, F4TF! I am really enjoying the Click Click 365 blog and I must say Sinful Sunday is one of my very favourite memes, for exactly the same reasons you gave.

What do you read for enjoyment? Have you any hobbies outside of writing and photography?

I think it’s fairly obvious that I am quite passionate about rugby. I am also an avid reader, mostly science fiction and fantasy, but throw in some good crime drama too. The authors in my book case include Isaac Asimov, Robert Heinlein, David Eddings, Ian Rankin, Christopher Brookmyre, Ben Aaronovitch, Harry Harrison, Arthur C Clark and many others.

Tell us something new and surprising about yourself… something we do not already know!

Um, well, I have brown hair, brown eyes, I’m about 5’10”, strong/stocky build, I have the requisite number of legs, arms and heads, and I can play the trombone.

Haha! Well I did not know that! There appears to be no end to your talents Wookie!

Thank you so much for being my first ‘An Interview With The Writer’ featured blogger, and for responding with such interesting and honest answers. Mwah!  💋


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Scouting For Interest…

So… I have had an idea. (Yes, it happens every now and then!)

I thought perhaps it might be cool to have a feature here where I interview fellow bloggers I like.

I like the idea for a couple of reasons:

  • I think you all know how much I love to share great writing when I find it and I am very much in favour of us all helping each other out in terms of helping to promote each other’s work. This could be a neat way to help introduce new readers to other writers, yeah?
  • I am a nosey, (I could say curious, but let’s be real here), person! I love to ask questions and get to know more about people. I think it would be fun to discover more about the bloggers I admire. I won’t pry too deeply but I’d like to think I will reveal a new aspect to each person I talk to.

I am not sure how frequently I would do an interview, I guess it depends on willing victims, (sorry, participants)!

I have done it before, if you’d like to read it!

So… over to you!

What do you guys think? Would you enjoy this new feature? Would you be interested in allowing me into your private world? Let me poke around inside your mind, exploring and uncovering your motivations, inspirations, desires, fears and fantasies?

I promise I will be gentle!


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My 2015 in review

Thank you so much to every single person who visited my blog during the year… Your support and feedback mean more to me than you know.

I wish each and every one of you only the very best for 2016.



The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

The concert hall at the Sydney Opera House holds 2,700 people. This blog was viewed about 22,000 times in 2015. If it were a concert at Sydney Opera House, it would take about 8 sold-out performances for that many people to see it.

Click here to see the complete report.