An Interview With The Writer #1 Kilted Wookie

FullSizeRenderToday I launch my new project called ‘An Interview With The Writer’! (AIWTW)

My good pal Kilted Wookie very generously offered to be my first subject. If you haven’t already discovered his blogs, (he has provided links in his responses), I can wholeheartedly recommend you pop over and peruse them for quality erotica, opinion pieces, haiku and some really cool photography.

If you are a writer and would like to be featured here you can DM me on twitter or just leave a comment on the AIWTW page.


The Kilted Wookie speaks…

So, let’s start at the beginning – which came first, writing or blogging? Can you tell us a bit about how it all began for you?

The writing came first. I wrote my first story way back in 2001. I’d been reading some stories at Some of it was excellent, some of it was dire. Sadly much of what was written by the male writers fell into the latter category. I decided that I could probably do better than that, so I decided to give it a try. The rest, as they say, is history.

The blogging came much later. I wrote a guest piece for Horny Geek Girl back towards the end of 2014. Around about the same time, she and Charlie Powell (of sexblog of sorts fame) were discussing the need for “more cock on #SinfulSunday”. Eventually, they persuaded me to take the plunge, and I posted my first submission to Molly’s meme in January 2015. The blog just grew from there.

What made you decide to focus on erotica?

No real reason. The stories I wrote seemed to be generally well received, so I kind of took that as a motivation to continue.

Do you see erotica as different to pornography? How so?

Very much so. With pornography you have the images; very little is left to the imagination. With the written word, you have the outline of the story as told by the writer, but you can use your imagination to supply your own imagery. You can put yourself in the story if you want, making yourself an “active” participant, or you can treat it as a voyeuristic experience.

Do you write from personal experiences or are your stories fantasy based?

A bit of both. There is generally a factual element to most of my stories. The degree of fact to fiction depends on what I’m writing. Obviously, I know what it feels like and tastes like to go down on a woman, I know how it feels when a woman sucks my cock, I know what it feels like to be have my cock inside her cunt, so I can draw on those feelings and sensations to flesh out my writing. Some of the scenarios my characters find themselves in also come from actual experiences. A lot though, is imagination.

Can you tell us about your writing process? What inspires you? Where do your ideas come from?

Generally, an idea forms, I toy with it in my mind for a period of minutes/hours/days until I have a good idea as to how I want it to work, then I just sit down and splurge. Most of what I write is done in one sitting.

The ideas come from different places; chats I’ve had with people online and in real life, posts that other bloggers have written, articles that I have read elsewhere, and the sex I have actually had.

Your blog is a great mix of fiction, opinion pieces and poetry. Which form of writing do you find most enjoyable? Why?

I enjoy it all. Each has its own challenges, and each has its own rewards. When I started out, my stories tended to be more, full-length, essay type. I would spend almost as much time developing the characters and the scenarios as I did describing the sex. More recently I’ve been working on flash fiction. This has its own challenges; trying to fit all the components of a longer story into around 500 words.

In a way, my haiku are quite similar. It is a very rigid and restrictive form. Trying to condense an idea into exactly seventeen syllables, that conveys the intended meaning and yet still, hopefully, arouses is challenging.

My thoughts and opinions are exactly that. They give the reader an insight into me and the way my mind works. I never claim to be representative of anyone other than myself. That’s the beauty of this community; there are so many views and opinions drawn from so many different viewpoints and experiences. We may not always agree with each other, we may not all like the same things as each other, but we can share our thoughts on matters to an audience that is generally receptive and respectful towards them

What, if any, aspects of blogging or writing challenge you?

I think, like everyone, coming up with new ideas. There are only so many words you can use to describe sex, so you need to set the context. It’s the setting and the characters that make the story. The “hard” bit is getting the scene set. Once you have that in place, the sex itself is fairly easy.

Yes, I agree, coming up with new ideas and new ways of describing sex can be very difficult. On a more personal note, have you found that your dyslexia has presented any specific challenges for you as a blogger?

Not really, no. Probably the most obvious manifestation is the high contrast theme I use on my blog. I appreciate that some people may find it a bit of a strain, but it makes my life a lot easier.

We both have talked openly about our mental health issues; do you find your creativity can be affected by your mood?

It seems to be something that is very prevalent within our particular community. I think my mood is very central to who I am and, yes, it does affect me. When I’m particularly low, the ideas don’t come and, even when they do, the motivation to translate them on to screen in written form just sometimes isn’t there.

On the other hand, because it is so prevalent in our community, my fellow bloggers and Twitter pervs are all wonderfully supportive. I suspect, because we are so used to taking and being open about something as “taboo” as mental health, it perhaps makes us more able to speak openly about subjects like sex, sexuality, kink, etc. There again, I could just be talking bollocks.

Yes! You make an excellent point there, we are a very open and honest bunch in the kink community. I think ever so slightly differently; that perhaps it is because we are so open discussing sex that, in comparison, mental health might seem not as taboo to us as to the more vanilla community. But yes I agree that the support offered is incredible.

Given that you enjoy kink and aspects of D/s, have you any specific kinks or fetishes? Do they feature in your writing? (And before you say it… we know about your love of all things boobtastic!)

I do find it easier to write about the types of sexual activities that I enjoy, be it D/s or “vanilla”. In a way, when I’m writing about these things, I am mentally doing/reliving them, so it’s much easier to write about things that I enjoy and am comfortable with. Given that, as I said before, there are elements of fact in pretty much all of my stories, I guess it’s probably fair to say, if my characters don’t do it, it’s probably something I don’t do, or don’t particularly enjoy doing either.

As for fetishes, I do have bit of thing for glasses.

*Pushes her specs up and wiggles her eyebrows…  👓

You are a keen amateur photographer; tell us how you got into this hobby. Do you think you have a distinctive style?

I’ve been taking photos for as long as I can remember; it’s a bit of an addiction. The advent of the phone camera has only fuelled it. There is probably hardly a day that goes by where I don’t see something that has me reaching for my phone to capture it.

I think digital photography has maybe made us a bit sloppy. We can just point, shoot, and if it doesn’t work, delete and try again. There’s no limitations of only having 12/24/36 exposures on a film to play with. On the other hand, such freedoms allows us to be more experimental; it doesn’t matter if we take 20 crap photos to find that one that we like. And, of course, we can now see our results instantly; no more waiting several days to get them back from the chemist. So, yeah, I doubt I’d have taken the sort of photos I post on #SinfulSunday or my Tumblr Blog if I were still relying on the local chemist to develop my snaps.

As for style, the one thing that I do is to work almost exclusively with available light. I try to avoid using the flash wherever possible. I’m trying, as much as I can, to capture the image as I see it in its “natural” conditions.

Haha! Yeah I remember the thrill of picking up newly developed photos too and hoping they all came out well. And yep, thank fuck for instant and private processing… I cannot imagine my Sinful Sunday contributions would be very sinful if I had to send them away!

I know, like myself, you participate in several blogging memes, but do you have any that are particularly close to your heart? Why so?

I am really enjoying the Click Click 365 project that I am participating in with my fellow photographers, F dot Leonora, Exposing 40 and The Other Livvy. I am, of course a huge fan of #SinfulSunday because of the way it promotes body positivity and for the sheer quality of the images that the participants post each week. Then of course, there is our very own Food For Thought Friday, which is a lot of fun trying to think up questions and I really enjoy reading the responses of the bloggers that take part.

Ah yes, our wee baby, F4TF! I am really enjoying the Click Click 365 blog and I must say Sinful Sunday is one of my very favourite memes, for exactly the same reasons you gave.

What do you read for enjoyment? Have you any hobbies outside of writing and photography?

I think it’s fairly obvious that I am quite passionate about rugby. I am also an avid reader, mostly science fiction and fantasy, but throw in some good crime drama too. The authors in my book case include Isaac Asimov, Robert Heinlein, David Eddings, Ian Rankin, Christopher Brookmyre, Ben Aaronovitch, Harry Harrison, Arthur C Clark and many others.

Tell us something new and surprising about yourself… something we do not already know!

Um, well, I have brown hair, brown eyes, I’m about 5’10”, strong/stocky build, I have the requisite number of legs, arms and heads, and I can play the trombone.

Haha! Well I did not know that! There appears to be no end to your talents Wookie!

Thank you so much for being my first ‘An Interview With The Writer’ featured blogger, and for responding with such interesting and honest answers. Mwah!  💋


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Thank You Rebel!

I opened twitter this morning and was delighted to see a notification from the lovely Marie Rebelle telling me that I had made it into her Top 20 of ’15!


Given that she had already very graciously included two of my blog posts in her Rebel’s Year In Review round up, I was tickled every shade of pink.

Rebel runs a fantastic sex and body positive blog that I am always excited to visit.

Her meme Wicked Wednesday is up there with my very favourite events to participate in. She also runs the Menopause Diaries, which I find a very valuable resource, as I have no older women in my life to guide me through this once it happens. She is a regular contributor to Sinful Sunday, Kink of the Week and my own meme Food For Thought Friday which I co-run with The Kilted Wookie.

I find her to be inspiring, funny, sweet, kind and generous and would love to meet her, and her husband Master T, in person one day.

Thank you Rebel for your ongoing support… It is very much appreciated.

If you haven’t already visited her blog I heartily recommend you fix that right away!

This is my final post of this year so I will wish you all a wonderfully happy 2016!



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My 2015 in review

Thank you so much to every single person who visited my blog during the year… Your support and feedback mean more to me than you know.

I wish each and every one of you only the very best for 2016.



The stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

The concert hall at the Sydney Opera House holds 2,700 people. This blog was viewed about 22,000 times in 2015. If it were a concert at Sydney Opera House, it would take about 8 sold-out performances for that many people to see it.

Click here to see the complete report.

Quick Thank You!



Just a quick line to thank the wonderful people who have responded to my Feedback Request.

I really do appreciate your comments. I can confirm that I will not use any of your names unless you have agreed to it first, so please never worry about confidentiality or anonymity.

Due to some sleep issues, I am a bit behind where I had hoped to be with this post but I promise… I won’t leave y’all hanging too long!

You guys and gals ROCK!


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10 Day Writing Challenge 01

I found this challenge over on Fetlife and asked the author’s permission to use it here. She kindly agreed.

I think it’ll be an interesting exercise in discipline, as I have been a bit irregular with my blogging lately.

Day 1 – 10 things to say to 10 people

1. I love you

2. I am sorry.

3. I miss you.

4. Thank you.

5. You are an amazing person and I am grateful you are in my life.

6. I wish I mattered more to you.

7. I am proud of you.

8. You’re my best friend.

9. You can do this.

10. You hurt me.

Day 2 – 9 things about me

Day 3 – 8 ways to win my heart

Day 4 – 7 things that cross my mind a lot

Day 5 – 6 things I wish I’d never done

Day 6 – 5 people who mean a lot to me (in no particular order)

Day 7 – 4 turn offs

Day 8 – 3 turn ons

Day 9 – 2 images that describe my life right now

Day 10 – 1 confession

I admit it… some of the days ahead make me very nervous!

There are things in there I do not really want to look into or share. But I will do my best! As always.

My ABCs!

Inspired by Stella, I present my ABCs…


A – amiable, affectionate, approachable

B – blogger, ballsy, brave, bright

C – creative, crafty, considerate, conscientious, curious, chatty

D – devilish, dorky, depraved, dreamer

E – empath, engaging, educated, erotic, enthusiastic

F – funny, fuckable (I hope!), flirty, feisty, fiery, friendly, foul-mouthed

G – generous, gregarious, gluttonous, Good Girl, gardener, giggler

H – hedonist, humanist, hell-raiser, honest

I – intuitive, INFP, idealist, intelligent, imaginative

J – jokey, jovial, just me

K – kinky, knowledgable, kind, Kat!

L – loving, loyal, lewd, Little

M – mouthy, mad, music-lover, mischievous

N – naughty, nature lover, non-conformist, nosey, naive

O – open, over-excitable, OTT, optimist

P – punctual, playful, passionate, pragmatic

Q – quirky, quizzical, quick-witted

R – reliable, reader, rowdy, raucous, romantic, resourceful, real

S – sexual, sensitive, submissive, sociable, strong, sweet, smart

T – tolerant, trustworthy, trusting, thoughtful, twisted, talkative

U – understanding, unique

V – vivacious, voracious, vulgar

W – warm, witty, wanton, wicked, woman, writer

X – x-rated, xenodochial

Y – youthful, young at heart, yappy

Z – zany, zesty

That’s me… A-Z!

Why not have a go?


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