So, I began a Love Yourself challenge on my other blog and have since abandoned it. The reason? It simply wasn’t working for me. I found the questions/tasks either too childish, repetitive or they actually triggered awful self-destructive feelings. So I stopped.
In the meantime a very dear friend of mine suggested I focus on one part of my body every day and think about why I ‘love’ it. (Yes, I put love in ‘’ because it’s such a challenge for me… I can say I like parts, but love is stretching it.)
Yesterday I chose my wrists because they are slim and delicate-looking and feminine.
This morning I got a text from my friend asking me which part I am going to love today. I replied “I’ve to do another part already?!” and was told yes. I decided to love my lips today and when asked why I said I liked their shape. I was then asked “and?” and was stumped.
I was told this:
“It doesn’t have to be a physical attribute, it can be how you feel when you are kissed, it can be the sensation of them on some area of hubby’s body. You are trying to develop a sensualist view of your body, not just concentrating on the physical.
Each bit of your body has a sensory element as well as the purely physical. So, for example, if you pick your boobs, don’t just concentrate on size and shape, think about how you feel when they are touched, or when hubs compliments them.”
Wow! I never thought to approach my body with this perspective, ever.
For me, it’s pretty revolutionary!
So, because my friend has invested the time and effort into trying to help me I decided to embrace the challenge. It is a much more positive approach than the challenge I attempted before. I do not think it will be anywhere near easy, but I think it might be worth the effort.
I love my lips.
They are a very nice shape. For years I complained they were too thin but these days I really like them.
They are very sensitive. I loved them to be touched, tickled, carressed. I often stroke them absentmindedly myself.
I love applying lipstick to them. I have quite a collection of them.
I like how they look when I smile.
I love to talk and I talk fast so I suppose my lips get quite a workout!
I love the pleasure they can bring to the OH when I kiss his lips or ‘certain’ parts of his body.
I like to kiss with them, softly… or have them bitten while being kissed roughly.
I love that my lips can be very expressive.
So there! Reasons, apart from the physical, why I love my lips.
I wonder what I will focus on tomorrow?
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